The
third presidential debate between President Barack Obama and Governor Mitt
Romney had a one-on-one format that was in part a dialogue of the two, in part each
of them addressing the camera and the moderator. In a dialogue format they get
a chance to show how they address each other. Now, if you saw the debate, can
you recall whether they were assertive in their style or whether you heard
clauses that appeared to hedge their position or make disclaimers? Probably you
remember an assertive style throughout, which is the style a politician who
wants to be elected wants to cultivate. It is also the style that many leaders
choose. Assertiveness is associated with self-confidence, which can make others
confident in that person (or so it is thought). It also maintains an air of
status and high position in a hierarchy. This is how we expect leaders in
government and business to behave.
If
so, is that how you should behave in order to become a leader? That is a
trickier question. For one thing, people who are trying to advance up a career
ladder may find it unwise to behave assertively toward their managers. It is
widely thought to be bad idea, though the evidence of what would happen if you
did so is not so rich. That's because people avoid
assertiveness when interacting upwards in the hierarchy - they prefer to be a
little deferential - and maybe we can't blame them for not running that experiment on themselves.. But what about the choice of assertiveness or deference in
peer interactions? There one might see more of a battle for superiority through
showing assertiveness, at least if we think of human workplaces as roughly akin
to chimpanzee tribes with their dominance contests. But what a drag on
productivity and strain on work relations that would be.
I
can imagine workplaces that descend into dominance contests given the right (wrong?)
kind of circumstances. But research by Alison Fragale and colleagues shows that
the normal pattern is actually the opposite of this expectation: when
interacting with peers in the workplace, people are especially careful to show
deference in their statements. That is because peers have a greater need to signal friendly, non-threatening intentions to each other than individuals who interact up or down the hierarchy. Fragale and colleagues were able to show this
through analysis of email logs in two studies, which was a clever design
because people do tend to think a little longer before hitting “send” than they
do before engaging vocal cords, so email communications are well-calibrated for
tone as well as content.
I
thought there was an interesting message in this research because it does
suggest that an ability to get along and smooth social interactions is
important in a career-oriented workplace where individuals want to get ahead.
It is not just about sounding assertive and looking “leaderly.” And there is
one detail about this research that I found particularly delightful: One of the
studies used email records from the West Power Trading division of Enron; not
an organization known for its warm and fuzzy organizational culture!